The other day I came across a Lolita web comic by an artist named Lilly Higgs. As I read through the first arc, I was amazed at how easily I could relate to something like that - a lone Lolita in a small town, relying on the internet for other Lolita friends and sharing her coordinates online with the rest of the Lolita community.
This comic tells the story of Emily, an 18 year old Sweet Lolita who finds herself questioning her fashion choices after being viciously torn apart in an online forum, similar to getoffegl or loli_secrets. It was a sad story, but the saddest part is that it's all based off true events.
It was this comic that actually prompted me to visit some of these Livejournal communities and what I found there appalled me. Here we are, girls (and boys) of an alternative fashion subculture, tearing each other apart over some ruffles and lace. It's really rather...pathetic. I saw "secrets" about people who didn't even come close to deserving such slander, silly commentaries about how this person looks awful in bonnets or the color pink...and other such nonsense. Most of it was downright cruel.
What really baffles me is that you don't see this in other fashion subcultures. I've been part of the Goth scene for a while now and with so many different sub-styles of Goth you'd think the factions would be eating each other by now, but that's simply not the case. There's a sense of community there and encouragement. I may prefer Victorian mourning clothes over cyberlox and pvc, but I can still appreciate that each person has their own interpretation of a style...who am I to say what looks "good" and what doesn't?
So why all this viciousness in Lolita? Why all the catty drama and bickering? It's not very lady-like and it doesn't make one a better Lolita - it just makes them a bitch. I wouldn't be very surprised now if someone decides to post something nasty about me after reading this, but it does disappoint me. Shouldn't we be sticking together and giving each other support? The rest of the world thinks we look like a bunch of fairy-tale loonies. We shouldn't be thinking the same thing of each other just because we don't all wear the exact same coordinate or dress in the exact same way.
*sigh* I'm tired of ranting, so I'll stop now. If you want to read Confessions of an American Lolita (which is adorable by the way) visit it here: Click Me! ^_^